People I Try to Avoid
Copyright Andrea Reynolds
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This is a page in progress... I'll add to it as I think of more.

1. People who have unrealistic expectations: uninteresting, unmotivated people who want me to make them rich and famous with my own time and money. I have no interest in financially subsidizing strangers no matter how cute and cuddly they may be. If their spouses, parents, or banks won't subsidize them... why would I want to?

2. People who are bullies when kindness would accomplish what they want far more easily. (Bullies are usually seen as people who feel inadequate and have to bring others down to their level of misery.)

3. People who jump to conclusions and make judgments of others without taking the time to find out the truth.

4. People who gossip about others and pass along rumors without first finding out the facts.

5. Friends who devalue your work and your dreams instead of encouraging you to be even greater. I can't tell you how many friends I've had to part company with because they thought I should charge less than I deserve or be paid less than my expertise is worth. Just because they choose to think small is no reason I have to. (I encourage them to think bigger, but often they would rather not.)

6. People who question every single thing you say and do (picky, picky, picky), who don't have the right or reason to do so. That tells me they don't have enough in their lives to occupy their minds. On the Internet, strangers who do this are called trolls.

7. People who never reply to the proposal they asked you for that took hours - sometimes days - of thought, research and writing. As a former etiquette expert I place a lot of weight on how people behave. Do they have good manners and treat others with respect and consideration or do they treat you as though you were an inanimate object? I don't work with people who act as though they have no manners.

8. People who ask me what I can do for them, but who won't look at my web site to see the list of services I offer. Sometimes I wonder if they are expecting me to read my web pages to them over the phone or paste everything from the web pages into emails for them so they won't have to use their browser. I figure if they aren't willing to do a little research for themselves they won't be motivated to push themselves to the success they say they want.

9. People who ask me to help them but won't give me a clue as to what they want and what they can afford, no matter how many times I ask and how I vary the questions. If you want something learn how to ask. Get specific. Think. Make a list. (I call it a wish list.) Think in terms of results you want (me) to achieve.

10. Professionals I'm paying who don't listen to what I say, won't work on what I ask them to work on, don't answer my questions, won't show me the X-rays or diagnosis I'm paying for, and won't tell me in advance how much it will cost when it comes out of my own pocket (not insurance).

11. People who send me an email for advice on how to recover their money or avoid paying debt to someone else incurred in their name, but who won't show me the documents so I can get a reading on what the true story is and what I have to work with. It's much like calling a doctor who has never met you, on the phone and saying, "I have a pain here; can you treat me without seeing me?" Not only would that be foolish for any doctor to attempt, it would also be irresponsible and unethical. Not to mention, stupid.

12. People who drink heavily. When they are drinking they don't remember the time you spent with them, nor the advice you give them. They often cancel appointments or just don't show up. Being around a heavy drinker, sometimes, even a light but constant drinker, can be a merry-go-round; but too often a roller-coaster ride... neither of which belongs in the consulting environment.

I'm sure there will be more to add.

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